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No. 1148
Personally, I keep this very private, since it's a thing that very few people understand. That said, if I find someone may understand it, I might feel free to tell, but so far that has only happened to very few people, and of those, I have contact only with one. That said, some context might be necessary.
Masking goes beyond "female masking", which is what I assume you're asking about. There are people that purchase monster masks and use them as part of cosplaying or as appliances for haunt attractions. This particular form of masking isn't considered taboo at its widest, mostly since those who wear it usually keep it private and use it only for those attractions. *Female* masking, however (and its counterpart, in case of women wearing male masks) has a necessary connection to crossdressing - in a way, a female masker is a crossdresser wearing an additional, and essential, prosthetic. The mask, in a way, is the most essential component of the transformation, what separates a female masker from the overall crossdressing community.
From that, you might understand why some people - myself included - keep this under wraps. Again, this is my opinion, but most female maskers are crossdressers by necessity. Crossdressing already has its own stigma - talking to relatives or friends about crossdressing is always a challenge, since it means speaking about something very personal and potentially putting yourself in ridicule (or worse, a target for harassment) in hopes that the other person understands. Gauging who could potentially accept these news, particularly for an introvert, is challenging, tiresome and even dangerous. (Which is why anonymity works wonders in this case - it grants a sense of security when talking to others, though it is something that must be used responsibly.)
Now: consider that, while crossdressing has in a way gone mainstream, masking still remains at the fringes. Think of a positive depiction of masking. The closest one is "Mrs. Doubtfire"; the way the concept was worked is both wholesome and clever, and while sometimes set up for jokes, the climax is dealt with very seriously and ends with a positive note (the protagonist's female persona becomes a TV show host, emboldened by its own experiences). The rest are either means for deception or meant for cheap laughs (i.e., Big Momma's House or White Chicks). Then there's the turn into horror, and how "skinsuit" is forever associated with Silence of The Lambs. Given that depiction by media, it's easy to understand that masking can be considered creepy, and maskers likewise creepy fellows - hence, digging masking further into the fringes. While I can't measure how many people are in each side, it's reasonable to think that most people would find knowing about being a masker unsettling at best. Even the documentaries like "Secrets of the Living Dolls", which do their best to portray dolls and maskers as regular people, can only do so far. This is the kind of environment that personally makes me hide my desire for masking to most people, only taking advantage of anonymity as a way to vent and show off.
As for the questions: sadly, I don't date (though it's entirely my own fault), and while I keep it hidden, I would be open to speak about it given the trust. As the only place where I connect is here (which is, admittedly, very limited in scope), I don't meet up with others, though my aversion to social media effectively bars me from even befriending others.
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